Sadomasochism

[The Cheshire Dragon]

Ohhh man. As I may have mentioned before, I'm a bit of a painslut. Physical pain only, mind you. Emotional pain knocks me down, kicks me in the side and takes my money before spitting on me and I really rather avoid it.

But physical pain? Mmm.... I did the cutting thing (top of my forearms, so nothing majorly dangerous) when I was younger, but wisely stopped after being found out. When you're 14, you do what they say, despite the fact that flying high as a kite on endorphins is a grand thing.

It's actually only been in the last...4 months that I've rediscovered my 'thing' for pain. Even better now, because now I actually get really aroused when it's done to me. (That's not to say I wasn't when I was younger, but I don't believe I recognized it as arousal due to the pain. Then again, it might not have been arousal at all due to the circumstances.) Not only do I get aroused, I get the high-as-a-kite sensation that I rarely get otherwise, even while exercising where I get something similar but not as intense. And it makes me happy, too. Probably because of the attention I get, as attention-starved as I've been in my recent life. It was interesting, I was dripping candle wax on my forearm last week, trying to take myself away from the unpleasantness of home life and I only managed to make myself feel worse in my endorphin rush, rather than better. It was weird, and definitely fascinating to find out about.

*taps chin* What's been done to me? Spankings, floggings, canings (but not much because that hurts a little too much for me), paddlings, poking with sharp sticks... (That was interesting, it was a big bundle of these bamboo sticks but when they were being poked on me it only felt like one. Horray for strange biological responses!) I also love being tied up, but I don't know how much sadomasochism that involves. It's just really calming to me. Too bad my current play partner can't tie for shit and I seemingly have an impulse/compulsion to untie myself if I know I can do it. Oh yeah, getting pinched is fun too. Hurt me that way, especially on my nipples, and I'm in my happy place almost immediately.

[JohnnyTwoEyes]

I used to spend a lot of time learning about that sort of thing, but my interest in it has waned. My pain tolerance has become incredibly high over the years but the only time I tend to need to use it is when I need an emotion to concentrate on and I'm too trashed to picture my boy's face.

As for things I can do with my high pain tolerance, I once made a bet that I could saw through my finger with a plastic knife; my friends made me stop when the knife started dulling on the bone. I suppose I should have worked on a joint. I have also broken toes more times than I can count (yay thin toes and massive feet), but i just push them back into place myself.

Pain, to me, is something concrete in an ever changing world. It's visceral and instinctive, something to anchor yourself to when the "higher" emotions threaten to wash you away. It's also incredibly dangerous as such, as it can become an addiction of sorts on its own. I'm also tempted to push my pain tolerance more and more to find my limit.... last time I tried I almost lost an eye.

Long and short of it is enjoy your pain play and remember to play safe (of sorts)! Always buy sterilized disposable needles or use an autoclave to sterilize them, remember that a sharp knife is a safe knife, and always check your paddles for cracks and splinters before use. If you're using a studded paddle, make sure the studs are securely fastened and no rough or sharp ends are unnecessarily present. Taking a simple first aid class is good if you're into the more severe stuff.

Enjoy!

[Aeridus]

I can't stand pain, I'm more of a bondage person instead.

*ties random forumers to chairs and does unspeakable things to them*

[BriHahn]

*has unspeakable things done to her* *gasms*

[Aeridus]

Yayy! *continues to poke BriHahn with a dildo shaped like Elizabeth Taylor*

[Lowky]

Yayy! *continues to poke BriHahn with a dildo shaped like Elizabeth Taylor*

Which Elizabeth Taylor, the hot one from her prime, or the creepy toooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much makeup, looks like melted plastic modern day Elizabeth Taylor?

[Linkara]

I've got to say, I'm really not into it. Sure, spankings can be a turn on, but to me it's because of stimulation then to that region. I have a hard time connecting pain and pleasure together - they're opposite emotions that I don't think are supposed to go hand in hand and in all honesty, BDSM/domination kind of stuff kind of freaks me out...

[Prettydragoon]

I enjoy getting beaten with rattan sticks, but I'm enough of a wimp that I need to put on armour first.

[Kite-san]

*sics a few of the Commando Penguin Rape Squads on Sindras*

you'll find their paperwork re procedures and potential contagions on file at the office, along with the entry-is-consent disclaimer.

re the sadism and masochism thing, it can get even more complicated as well, because you can get people who end up getting a to all intents and purposes masochistic pleasure purely on the grounds of emotional connection to the sadist, and the pleasure THEY get inflicting the pain. yes, personal experience there, plus accounts from a handful of other subbie acquaintances.

as far as mixing morality into it... pfeh, so long as it's to the spirit of consentuality, and the letter -and- spirit of safety, there's nothing wrong that's been done.

[Sindras]

*Has only time to exclaim "Eep" before he is overcome by Commando Penguin Rape Squads*

*points upwards* Am in agreement with Kite-san!

[VileTerror]

*rapidly ignites the penguins each with an audible pop as they explode*
<i><b>What</b></i> office?

[JohnnyTwoEyes]

*rapidly ignites the penguins each with an audible pop as they explode*
<i><b>What</b></i> office?

*gets to work on some penguin stirfry*

[PopeMac]

Are you going to eat all of that? If not, I call dibs on the leftovers.

[Kite-san]

*dispatches more penguins* i would assume it was obvious, the Penile Administration Bureau under the Governance of the Lesbian Overlords. What other office could the paperwork for rape penguins be -in-?

[Aeridus]

Yayy! *continues to poke BriHahn with a dildo shaped like Elizabeth Taylor*

Which Elizabeth Taylor, the hot one from her prime, or the creepy toooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much makeup, looks like melted plastic modern day Elizabeth Taylor?

The hot one.

My government teacher in high school actually has a long time crush on her. And he's about 70 and married.

[BriHahn]

Oh good; at least I get the hot Liz Taylor. *G*

[Awkwardschoolgirl]

When you're 14, you do what they say

Fwah?! Since when? When I was fourteen I was doing pretty much the opposite of what they say.

*continues to poke BriHahn with a dildo shaped like Elizabeth Taylor*

Ewwww.... that's my mom's name... *shudder* Now I can't get the image of a purple sparkly dildo shaped like ym mother being used... Eeewwwwwwwww!!!

[Aeridus]

Your last name is Taylor?

[JohnnyTwoEyes]

Your last name is Taylor?

That's my boyfriend's first name!

[Awkwardschoolgirl]

Uhhh.... yes?