"Goodbye, Large people!"

[Tellurider]

*rocks the back of the classroom*

Except now I can't because my professors write too small so if I don't sit up front I have no idea what they're writing. Bah!

My high school was pretty awesome, 'cause it was super-tiny. But there's BAON Colorado for you.

I've been in fights before, and my piece of advice is, don't put guys in headlocks. Unless you can really clamp down on their necks, they're just like "ooo! boobies!"

[PF27]

LOL Buster.

Also - having re-read the situation a few times I have to say that I'd personally deal with the situation exactly the same way as Emo Ho has. If someone who I despised tried to chum in to my freindship group/into my space I'd do just that. And I have in the past. If you've been rejected from the 'gang', isn't the best thing to do just to stay away from them as much as possible and find new friends?

She and her boyfreind are the only ones who have been harrassing us, the others invite us to hang out there. Shehas no reason to dislike me, I had never seen her before we started hanging out in that area. She doesn't even know most of the people in that group, she's just there because her boyfreind is.

I can't find new freinds, I actually am incapapable of it. There's no one else in the school willing to associate with me. I'm either too smart, too tomboyish, too quiet, or too big. Our group of freinds IS really close, but because I've joked about my weight around them I don't think they really realize how sick of her I am.

[Killbert-Robby]

LOL Buster.

Also - having re-read the situation a few times I have to say that I'd personally deal with the situation exactly the same way as Emo Ho has. If someone who I despised tried to chum in to my freindship group/into my space I'd do just that. And I have in the past. If you've been rejected from the 'gang', isn't the best thing to do just to stay away from them as much as possible and find new friends?

She and her boyfreind are the only ones who have been harrassing us, the others invite us to hang out there. Shehas no reason to dislike me, I had never seen her before we started hanging out in that area. She doesn't even know most of the people in that group, she's just there because her boyfreind is.

I can't find new freinds, I actually am incapapable of it. There's no one else in the school willing to associate with me. I'm either too smart, too tomboyish, too quiet, or too big. Our group of freinds IS really close, but because I've joked about my weight around them I don't think they really realize how sick of her I am.

This makes things SO much simpler. If you really are so close, just tell them. Tell them you really don't like having her around, that she hurt you, and that you don't want her to ruin the friendship.

[MixedMyth]

Yah, I'd go for the talking with your friends route. If they're good friends as you say, they'll try and figure it out. If she's been THAT bitchy, they probably noticed but don't know how to broach the subject...got that "caught in the middle" feeling, maybe. Whichever the case, since they genuinely want to hang out with you and be your friend, definately bring it up. Might not be socially easy, but better then the lengthy pain of putting up with whazzerface over and over again.

[Blackaby]

Yeah... totally tell them. Why... haven't you?

[PF27]

I'm afraid of bothering people. I've forced myself to ask every person coming to a surprise birthday party for someone else if they had a problem with a certain kind of cake.

[Protectmyballs]

You'll go crazy if you keep that up.

[Bustertheclown]

You'll go crazy if you keep that up.

No shit. It's time to stop being the DD. If you don't, people will not treat you any better.




(Designated Doormat)

[McDuffies]

But she doesn't have a comic on Drunk Duck!

[Kisai]

Hopefully I'm the voice of reason here.

Being someone who was constantly picked on for one reason or another (geekiness, skinniness, not wearing jearns, etc), I often found a few ways, although they are not the best.

1. Direct approach. Call their bluff. If they are so hard up for being a bully or just a plain pain in the ass. Then acquire someone of authority to visit your group (teacher, prinicpal, police, etc), if they only act that way when that person is around, they must feel frustrated. When I was in high school I was better friends with the teachers and principal than I was any students. Somehow the fear of being kicked out of school (despite these people often skipping classes) will keep their mouth shut.

2. Avoid approach. Vanishing act. When I was in middle school (JR high, or whatever GR 7/8 is considered) the school was right up against a forested park and some forest... and yet more forest. Although the area I often wondered into was off-limits, as long as I got back in time, nobody knew the difference. It wasn't like I had to hop over fences and run from bears. If you don't exist anymore to them, they will find someone else to tease. In high school I just spent half my time in the library or video/journalism room.

3. And then there is the get them in trouble. I would have put this as number one, except it will make you lose friends. One of my parents was on the school board, going above the teacher, and principal doesn't look good to students, and the teachers and principal will get in trouble for "not doing something/ignoring the problem" . This one kid stole my boots during winter and I literately broke down and cried from it, that kid got subsequently suspended.

So the irony in #3 is that you learn who your friends really are. I didn't have many friends, or at least people I wanted to hang out with, so I didn't know who was friends with who, who was dating who, who was smoking pot or doing the hard drugs and who was doing who untill about grade 12. Grade 12 a bunch of stuff clicked, the girls who got pregnant dropped out, the ones who skipped weren't allowed to graduate. There was no bridge to burn for me if I got someone in trouble, but ultimately I just avoided the troublemakers in the first place so I wouldn't need to.

So going back to high school politics 101... If you have a large group of friends, hang out with them, if there is someone in your group who hates you, confront them, don't get back at them. Sometimes you can even take that tease away from them by using it yourself and considering it a compliment.

I'd add more but I'm on lunch and just realised I'm late. X_x

[PF27]

Thanks for the advice everyone, I'll be deciding what to do tonight and doing it tomorrow.

As a random comment, this would be so much easier if it were a guy making fun of my. I always have the perfect comeback for guys. "Yeah, but at least it looks good when it all goes to MY breasts.(Staring rather obviously at their chest."

[Tynan]

I always make fun of Kisai for not wearing jearns.
:p

To take from Kevin Smith, many like himself become defeatists...taking the power out of peoples threats, by saying them themselves.
But that's not for everyone...esspecially if you take such things to heart.

And an act of violence although sweet at the time of execution, with people these days they'd be more than happy to come back with a band of people to strike at you...and unless you've got some hidden blood lust that path isnt' for you.

With many they're just bringing you down to bring themselves up and if you do the same to them they feel wronged as if what they'd been doing was right...as I bet many have said here.

Personally I find diffusing the individual the best method...though it might not be for you as I just make most everything into a joke...but the method behind it is to take your place with these said friends and have a good time make them laugh when this person comes to unload on you make light of it and continue with the joking, they lose the power of their peers whom will end up seeing them as jackasses for having broken up the fun time. Or sit idly by not doing anything as the drama ensues but never again will they feel comfortable with these foolish people...that is to say if they're actually your friends or want to be.

But I'm just rambling after a hard days work so pay no attention to the Tynan behind the curtain.

[Pimpette]

Heh... we always threw grapes at people who bothered our corner of the locker bay. Grapes come in bunches and they're fun little projectiles to throw.
High school was a blast, even if I hated the administration for being neo-nazi asshats. Price to pay for good equipment I guess.

Hell, teachers would stick problem kids next to me hoping I would have a 'calming effect' on them...nevermind what that meant for ME.

God I hated that.

Teachers always did that to me... at their own expense.

When I get put beside the loud kids, I don't calm them down. I make them worse.
In one particular math class in high school, I was the silent good-work kid who sat by the window, daydreamed during a lecture, and got good marks on most of what I did. About halfway through the semester the teacher decides to put me beside the loudest kid in the class, I assume with the vain hope that I would calm him down.
She learned different when I became the second-loudest kid in the class. And suddenly I wasn't getting work done anymore.
Lesson learned: leave Laurel to her own devices or pay the penalty.

[Dr Legostar]

Heh... we always threw grapes at people who bothered our corner of the locker bay. Grapes come in bunches and they're fun little projectiles to throw.
High school was a blast, even if I hated the administration for being neo-nazi asshats. Price to pay for good equipment I guess.

Hell, teachers would stick problem kids next to me hoping I would have a 'calming effect' on them...nevermind what that meant for ME.

God I hated that.

Teachers always did that to me... at their own expense.

When I get put beside the loud kids, I don't calm them down. I make them worse.
In one particular math class in high school, I was the silent good-work kid who sat by the window, daydreamed during a lecture, and got good marks on most of what I did. About halfway through the semester the teacher decides to put me beside the loudest kid in the class, I assume with the vain hope that I would calm him down.
She learned different when I became the second-loudest kid in the class. And suddenly I wasn't getting work done anymore.
Lesson learned: leave Laurel to her own devices or pay the penalty.

::sits pimpette down next to himself and enjoys the ensuing chaos::

[Pimpette]

God I hated that.

Teachers always did that to me... at their own expense.

When I get put beside the loud kids, I don't calm them down. I make them worse.
In one particular math class in high school, I was the silent good-work kid who sat by the window, daydreamed during a lecture, and got good marks on most of what I did. About halfway through the semester the teacher decides to put me beside the loudest kid in the class, I assume with the vain hope that I would calm him down.
She learned different when I became the second-loudest kid in the class. And suddenly I wasn't getting work done anymore.
Lesson learned: leave Laurel to her own devices or pay the penalty.

::sits pimpette down next to himself and enjoys the ensuing chaos::

*builds a fort out of desks when the teacher isn't looking*

[Dr Legostar]

Teachers always did that to me... at their own expense.

When I get put beside the loud kids, I don't calm them down. I make them worse.
In one particular math class in high school, I was the silent good-work kid who sat by the window, daydreamed during a lecture, and got good marks on most of what I did. About halfway through the semester the teacher decides to put me beside the loudest kid in the class, I assume with the vain hope that I would calm him down.
She learned different when I became the second-loudest kid in the class. And suddenly I wasn't getting work done anymore.
Lesson learned: leave Laurel to her own devices or pay the penalty.

::sits pimpette down next to himself and enjoys the ensuing chaos::

*builds a fort out of desks when the teacher isn't looking*

::designs and builds a spitball cannon::

[Pimpette]

::sits pimpette down next to himself and enjoys the ensuing chaos::

*builds a fort out of desks when the teacher isn't looking*

::designs and builds a spitball cannon::

*mounts it at the top of the fort*

*fires at unsuspecting students and blames invisible math gnomes*

[Garneta]

Starts building a better desk fort on the other side of the room!

[Yeahduff]

I can't find new freinds, I actually am incapapable of it. There's no one else in the school willing to associate with me. I'm either too smart, too tomboyish, too quiet, or too big. Our group of freinds IS really close, but because I've joked about my weight around them I don't think they really realize how sick of her I am.

The real solution to your problem is to stop convincing yourself that this is true. But whatever.

[Kisai]

Heh... we always threw grapes at people who bothered our corner of the locker bay. Grapes come in bunches and they're fun little projectiles to throw.
High school was a blast, even if I hated the administration for being neo-nazi asshats. Price to pay for good equipment I guess.

Hell, teachers would stick problem kids next to me hoping I would have a 'calming effect' on them...nevermind what that meant for ME.

God I hated that.

Teachers always did that to me... at their own expense. :twisted:

When I get put beside the loud kids, I don't calm them down. I make them worse.
In one particular math class in high school, I was the silent good-work kid who sat by the window, daydreamed during a lecture, and got good marks on most of what I did. About halfway through the semester the teacher decides to put me beside the loudest kid in the class, I assume with the vain hope that I would calm him down.
She learned different when I became the second-loudest kid in the class. And suddenly I wasn't getting work done anymore.
Lesson learned: leave Laurel to her own devices or pay the penalty.

I only had one teacher try that, the result was that I was stuck with the loudest annoying girl in the class (all the desks at the time were in 2's) who did nothing but talk to her friends or whatever. I was so insulted by it that I actually took that frustration out on the girl and was rather mean to her because I -DID NOT- like her at all.

I think that pairing lasted 2 days. The teacher gave up on seating plans in that arrangment and went back to groups of 4 or 5, which I also hated, because the "dumbest" student in the group would never do any work. One time I was put in the group with the 3 "troublemakers" of the class. One of these guys I hated because he kept talking about sex ... this was grade 7, I think he realized that I turned beet red, and I actually ran out of the classroom crying once.

I had a repeat of that in grade 9 where I ditched the class partway through and slammed the door so hard that someone "went and looked" from every classroom.

I was truely miserable in school, suffice it to say. And to this date It's still possible to trigger a "blow up" (Happened at least twice each with the first two jobs I had).

My parents keep insisting that I goto college, university or something, but honestly, half the reason I didn't was because I didn't want to deal with more fools, the other half being I didn't want to wind up being the teachers unpaid assistant/substitute AGAIN. (Ever since about grade 4, I somehow always got to be the goto person for anything mildly technical, wether it was getting the TV to play, or the computer to reboot. It wasn't untill that brief time at college that I realized that I should not be PAYING to take classes that I'm teaching.)