disOWNED

[Yeahduff]

Dutch, if you haven't noticed, this is a vent fest. You'd do well to find something other than criticizing others for not respecting authority figures. Please.

[Rocknjosie]

I'll make this long so people'll ignore it.

I haven't talked to my father in two years. I haven't been allowed to step foot in the home I grew up in for a year. My relationship with my mother is deteriorating and it's getting to the point where I'm astranged from all my family aside from my brother.

It's a long complicated issue. My dad's emotionally distant. He used to take us to baseball games and say nothing. He would come home every night at 6 and pass out on the couch in front of the TV. When he wasn't asleep he was yelling, which led to my siblings and I being extremely scared of him.

This went on till I went to high school, when he started "sleeping in his car" most nights of the week. The afair wasn't admited to till 3 years later, lasted all through my high school years.

My dad verbally abused my mom to no end.

So when he disowned me for being transexual it was a blessing.

Hopefully this is long enough that I won't have to elaborate on that last sentence.

But although I'm much happier out of the house than I was in it, it hurts like hell to have that void in your heart, no child wants to go to war with their parents.

So I understand how you feel. And you have my sympathy. Or comisseration I guess is more like it.

[LibertyCabbage]

So when he disowned me for being transexual it was a blessing.

Hopefully this is long enough that I won't have to elaborate on that last sentence.

... that's got to be the most awkward thing thing i've ever read on a message board

[Rocknjosie]

So when he disowned me for being transexual it was a blessing.

Hopefully this is long enough that I won't have to elaborate on that last sentence.

... that's got to be the most awkward thing thing i've ever read on a message board

I figured it would have to come out eventually, I just never wanted to make a big deal out of it.

[Nyke]

So when he disowned me for being transexual it was a blessing.

Hopefully this is long enough that I won't have to elaborate on that last sentence.

... that's got to be the most awkward thing thing i've ever read on a message board

I figured it would have to come out eventually, I just never wanted to make a big deal out of it.

And yet you told us about food orgies.

[Vorticus]

I got nothing.

[Vorticus]

Sorry for you all. I got nothing.

[Rocknjosie]

... that's got to be the most awkward thing thing i've ever read on a message board

I figured it would have to come out eventually, I just never wanted to make a big deal out of it.

And yet you told us about food orgies.

I forget sometimes that most people don't have parties where they dance naked in chocolate

[Dutch!]

Dutch, if you haven't noticed, this is a vent fest. You'd do well to find something other than criticizing others for not respecting authority figures. Please.

It's not the authority figure...it's more the lack of respect all round.

But righto then.

Cheers.

[Ti-Phil]

Sorry to hear all the trouble with your dad Van, but at least you know you want to be different from him and you probably have the will to do so.

And the town you were talking about, was it Rawdon?

[Rkolter]

I tried to write a rant about my parents, but it kept coming off as a compliment. To be honest, I got really, really lucky. My parents have their little problems and we don't always get along, but they did their very best to raise me and I think they did a good job. We don't always see eye to eye, but I'd trust them with my life without thinking twice.

So... yeah. I guess I'm a minority. Ignore me.

[Dr Legostar]

I tried to write a rant about my parents, but it kept coming off as a compliment. To be honest, I got really, really lucky. My parents have their little problems and we don't always get along, but they did their very best to raise me and I think they did a good job. We don't always see eye to eye, but I'd trust them with my life without thinking twice.

So... yeah. I guess I'm a minority. Ignore me.

[Blackaby]

Zwuh + I also got a stupidly happy middle class liberal upbringing with very loving parents and siblings... but we ended up as evil little fuckheads.

Really, Van, you don't have to become your father. If I was my mother, I'd be a goddamned saint who's dedicated her life to helping the poor and unfortunate, instead of a spoilt amoral bitch who laughs at people with bad teeth.

[Escushion]

I tried to write a rant about my parents, but it kept coming off as a compliment. To be honest, I got really, really lucky. My parents have their little problems and we don't always get along, but they did their very best to raise me and I think they did a good job. We don't always see eye to eye, but I'd trust them with my life without thinking twice.

So... yeah. I guess I'm a minority. Ignore me.

[RemusShepherd]

Hmph.

My father screwed up my childhood in rare fashion. I basically didn't have parents between the ages of 5 to 9, and when I saw them again it was in a series of courthouse appearances. The judge actually said to them in court, while us kids were sitting there, that my parents' stupidity had screwed their kids up for life.

My dad got custody, and I hated him for years. But when I went to college I told him that I didn't care about the mistakes he made -- I didn't want to go through life hating my father, so I wanted to get along with him. And he reciprocated. Ever since -- even though he continues to do stupid things that irritate me -- we've pretty much gotten along.

Van, I hope you and your father find some kind of respect for each other, and come to a relationship you both can stand. I know how damaging a bad relationship with one's father can be.

More importantly, realize that you are your own man. You may resemble your father in many ways -- you may not be able to avoid adopting parts of his personality. God knows I've tried to avoid being like my father, and sometimes I fail. But even so, you are your own person, and you keep a clear head then you can choose a different path for yourself. Best of luck, man.

[Vorticus]

I tried to write a rant about my parents, but it kept coming off as a compliment. To be honest, I got really, really lucky. My parents have their little problems and we don't always get along, but they did their very best to raise me and I think they did a good job. We don't always see eye to eye, but I'd trust them with my life without thinking twice.

So... yeah. I guess I'm a minority. Ignore me.

If your keeping track, I think people like us are catching up numberwise.

[Killbert-Robby]

I'm a bunch of things in life - I'm an artist, a writer, a lover of the orient and medieval fantasy, and an insufferable miserable douchebag who is insistant on fighting no matter how stupid or pointless my argument may be to prove that he doesn't back down or is worthless.

*rest of post*

Hey man, I know you don't believe me, and I don't want to belittle your feelings at all, but I've been in the same place. Daily yelling, crying mothers, dad's storming out of the house.


But let me tell you one thing. You want to slug him. I understand. But don't. I WAS in your position. Until I slugged MY father. Tensions are even higher. It's just not worth it.

And I know exactly the kind of angry feeling you get when your father insults your mother. I'm pleasantly surpised you managed to keep it down to reason rather than duking it out with him.



However, you also can't keep your emotions bottled up forever. But, as much as beating up everyone that pisses you off IS a theraputic measure, you can't keep it up.

The thing is, as much as I'd like to give you a solution, just a few magic words to fix everthing, I can't. We're in similar situations, and I myself have seen no solution. I'm just waiting until I graduate, and get the hell away. I guess the best solution is to forget. But not COMPLETELY. Remember, if one day you have kids yourself, you wont want to treat them like your father treated you. Remember what he did wrong, and make sure you don't do the same.

[Guildmaster Van]

Snap, I didn't think a lot of people were going to reply.

My father isn't a bad man; he works very hard at everything he does and incessently dedicated to whatever he's working on at the moment. The problem with that is he puts huge expectations on everyone, especially me.

When we were arguing the other day he blasted my intelligence, saying I was wasting my talents and asked whatever happened to my childhood dream of being a paleotologist; a flashback to when I told my parents I wanted to become a professional cartoonist one day and they kind of spazzed.

It's sort of hurtful, because though I may be pretty smart I think going into something as complex and time-consuming as, say, paleotology would be wasting my life, as there are far too many things I want to accomplish on my own that sciences would interfere with. I would rather waste my intelligence and have a fun time being a cartoonist than to use my smarts and be bored out of my mind.

Sometimes I envy my friends that had neglectful parents, because sometimes I like to think it's better to be ignored than insulted.


Anyway, as for my mother, she's going for surgery on the 24th, and then recovery for a few monthes. I hope it goes well, but it's unlikely I'll see her again before the surgery or after it until my father returns to SOuth America.

[Vorticus]

Snap, I didn't think a lot of people were going to reply.

We're an active forum and we have a tendancy to care.

[Grabmygoblin]

I tried to write a rant about my parents, but it kept coming off as a compliment. To be honest, I got really, really lucky. My parents have their little problems and we don't always get along, but they did their very best to raise me and I think they did a good job. We don't always see eye to eye, but I'd trust them with my life without thinking twice.

So... yeah. I guess I'm a minority. Ignore me.

my relationship with my dad is not as close as I wish it were, but I was blessed with two very loving and smart parents.

So when he disowned me for being transexual it was a blessing.

Hopefully this is long enough that I won't have to elaborate on that last sentence.

... that's got to be the most awkward thing thing i've ever read on a message board

I figured it would have to come out eventually, I just never wanted to make a big deal out of it.

aww, *hugs* don't worry about not being accepted here, half of us are lesbians anyway. sexuality doesn't matter to us. well, except if you really like horses. that seems to bother people.