Gender Confusion?

Sippan · Post by **Sippan** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 10:47 am

Plenty of people have been wrong about my gender ^.^

CJBurgandy · Post by **CJBurgandy** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 10:52 am

Skylark_King wrote:Every so often I get the gender mix up on the phone, but that's about it. (My natural resonation points are at the roof of my mouth and back of my throat so I have a slightly higher picthed voice than most guys) Never had it online (when your usual handles are "New Wave Dave" and "Skylark King" it's tough to assume female.) or in person (if I lost about 20 lbs and grew my hair out it might happen, high cheekbones)

*makes Skylark a pretty pink frilly dress*

Brockway · Post by **Brockway** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 10:56 am

[AOD] wrote:
Resolve wrote:Oh... faub, i'm very comfortable with you.

I think I'm pretty good at guessing people's gender. As a writer one of my main interests is the subtle differences between female and male writers.

Ten points if you state what tips you off to male or female writers.
I have no idea, but I can usually sense the difference between a book is written by a man or a woman. I just can't point out the exact differences.

!~AoD

Ever since I read the short story "A mother in mannville" the voice of every book I've read has seemed to be female...

Skylark King · Post by **Skylark King** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 11:01 am

cjburgandy wrote:
Skylark_King wrote:Every so often I get the gender mix up on the phone, but that's about it. (My natural resonation points are at the roof of my mouth and back of my throat so I have a slightly higher picthed voice than most guys) Never had it online (when your usual handles are "New Wave Dave" and "Skylark King" it's tough to assume female.) or in person (if I lost about 20 lbs and grew my hair out it might happen, high cheekbones)
*makes Skylark a pretty pink frilly dress*

Skylark King laughs and it's raining all day
he loves to be one of the girls
He lives in the place in the side of our lives
Where nothing is ever put straight
He turns himself round and he smiles and he says
'This is it, that's the end of the joke'
And loses himself in his dreaming and sleep
And his lovers walk through in their coats

He's pretty in pink
Isn't he
Pretty in pink

... I just couldn't help it.

LAGtheNoggin · Post by **LAGtheNoggin** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 12:55 pm

sippan wrote:Plenty of people have been wrong about my gender ^.^

Even with the goatee? Blimey...

I've been wolf whistled once and mis-identified occasionally, my hair was at the point of being too short to tie up and too long to look male/straight. The problems have cleared up now that I can tie my hair back though, yeah, fear the manly jawline.

Oh, and of all the comics I've read, Ping's was the hardest to identify what gender was doing the writing, seriously, could swear it was a bloke.

Hartchamber · Post by **Hartchamber** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 1:05 pm

well, with my name hart, i've had a few people think i'm a guy online. sometimes i correct them, sometimes not. i've been told by my friends that i have a "masculine" personality, but personally i think i draw and write like a woman.

hart

Waf · Post by **Waf** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 5:47 pm

As far as I know everything thinks I'm a guy. Infact I've never had anyone just take a stab at it and be wrong. Even when i use a girl avatars.

I excrete that much rugged manliness.

RLC Davidson · Post by **RLC Davidson** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 6:09 pm

To the best of my knowledge, I've never had anyone mistake me for a girl so, so far so good....

Ruxen · Post by **Ruxen** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 7:00 pm

As far as this forum goes I'm pretty sure most of you assume that I'm a girl..and you're right. Congrats. I get mistaken for a guy a lot of times in games though. But I can hardly blame those people I guess. There are girl gamers who play FPS games and other "manly" games, but there's not a whole lot of us. Frankly I'm rather content with them thinking I'm a guy, for some reason a girl in game prompts boys to ask you the question, "r u hot?"

Phalanx · Post by **Phalanx** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 7:11 pm

LAGtheNoggin wrote:Oh, and of all the comics I've read, Ping's was the hardest to identify what gender was doing the writing, seriously, could swear it was a bloke.

Hot damn!! I should have been ambigious on purpose and kept people guessing!

Bah. Wasted opportunity there.

*grin* Although my female friends have always thought it was odd my comic deals with the subject matter it does. They were expecting something more uh... girly.

Ghastly · Post by **Ghastly** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 7:16 pm

If we're talking "real life" gender confusion stories then I was, at least twice, confused for a girl.

I wasn't always the big, beefy, meaty-meat man with broad shoulders and a barrel chest that I am today. I used to be very very skinny. My legs are very long and shapely and when I was a kid I had what could be described as a "bubble butt". To make matters worse, growing up in the 70s my hair was long and my clothes... well... 70s fashions were very "fruity".

Even worse were the clothes my grandmother would buy me from Giant Tiger. I swear, looking back on what I was wearing, she must have been buying my clothes from the girl's section. The worst were these polyester short-shorts she bought me. Very tight, very feminine looking, very very short. I wasn't exactly the most sexually "with-it" kid either. I was a late bloomer and things like gender rolls didn't really click with me until I was older. I had some vague ideas what sex was about. I new it involved a guy and a girl and they had to be naked for it. I didn't really know too much else. Homosexuality was a completely foreign concept to me. I mean I knew the terms "homo" and "faggot". Every school kid is familiar with those insults, but I didn't know what a "homo" or a "faggot" was. I just thought they were some other kind of word for "loser". The idea that there could be sex between two people of the same sex didn't even enter my mind (and I almost wondered if it wasn't something my friends were just making up to freak me out when they told me about it later).

So when I was 12, I was staying with my Aunt and Uncle one summer up in Ottawa and they took me to the Science Centre. It was my favorite place in the world. I could have gone there every day. I didn't have any clean jeans to wear so I wore a pair of the powdered blue short-shorts my Grandma bought me. I didn't know what to wear with them, it was a cool day out, so I figured I'd wear this powedered blue turtleneck I had. It would be warm and it was the same colour as the short shorts. That was about the extent of my fashion sense at the time.

So I go to the Science Centre and my Aunt lets me go off on my own. So I'm walking around checking out all my favorite exibits and there's these two 14 year old boys following me around everywhere and they're making these odd comments. I don't quite understand what they're getting at and anytime I answer them their comments get more and more confusing and I'm starting to feel uncomfortable about it all. I managed to lose them after awhile and I went to the washroom to take a leak. Who comes in when I'm standing at the urinal doing my business? The two kids who were following me around.

Well they're jaws just about hit the floor and then the one points at the other and laughs out loud, "You faggot! You had a crush on a BOY!"

His friend punches him in the arm and yells "Shut up fag! You thought he was a girl too!"

Then I suddenly looked at myself and had this horrible horrible moment of realization "Oh-my-fucking-god! I'm dressed like a SISSY!"

I almost burst into tears and I just ran out of the bathroom past the two older boys who were laughing their ass off. I went and found an empty part of the Science Centre and hid out until it was time to go. I remember being angry at my Aunt and thinking "How the fucking hell could she let me leave the house DRESSED LIKE A SISSY!".

Needless to say that was the very last time I wore the short-shorts. From then on it was nothing but cut-offs or gym shorts. And I never wore turtlenecks and shorts again after that either. I began to wonder too if all the times I'd been teased on the playground with calls of "Chrissy the Sissy" had to do with the matter of convenience that my name was Chris or BECAUSE I WENT AROUND DRESSED LIKE A FUCKING SISSY!

It was absolutely mortifyingly embarassing at the time, but now, looking back, it just makes me laugh my freaking ass off.

The only other time I'd been confused with a girl was by name alone. I was on a school band trip to another city and we were being billetted by the parents of the students in the other school's band. When I got to the house where I was being billetted the mother said, "Oh, when I saw the name 'Chris' I assumed you were a girl because I know a girl named 'Chris' so I had prepaired a bed for you in my daughter's room, but I guess now you'll have to sleep in my son's room."

I guess that time I was a little disappointed that I no longer had my girlish looks.

Superlance · Post by **Superlance** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 7:50 pm

brockway wrote:Superlance, you do realize Bob, just moved? And that he donated his old house to a nunnery/orphanage?

...

Right?

...

...

...

I thought there was something wierd about that house.

Um... oops?

Liriel · Post by **Liriel** » Sat Jul 31, 2004 9:02 pm

cjburgandy wrote:
Liriel wrote: Well no wonder folks is confused, I tend to focus on both .

Here's food for thought: One of my bCx Forum buddies determined early on that I was female because I used smilies a lot... even in my update rants. So maybe there's a smilie ratio formula.
I figured you were female because I concidered your avatar to be eyecandy. (you look a lot like my girlfriend) I would have been disapointed in myself had you been a guy.

...but I thought my old avatar was eye candy:

~Liriel

Post by **Kisai** » Sun Aug 01, 2004 12:29 am

Ghastly wrote:If we're talking "real life" gender confusion stories then I was, at least twice, confused for a girl.
(CUT)
Needless to say that was the very last time I wore the short-shorts. From then on it was nothing but cut-offs or gym shorts. And I never wore turtlenecks and shorts again after that either. I began to wonder too if all the times I'd been teased on the playground with calls of "Chrissy the Sissy" had to do with the matter of convenience that my name was Chris or BECAUSE I WENT AROUND DRESSED LIKE A FUCKING SISSY!

It was absolutely mortifyingly embarassing at the time, but now, looking back, it just makes me laugh my freaking ass off.
(CUT)

I have a story about sweat pants... I haven't worn any since grade 7 when it became a popular trend to pants people wearing them, especially me because I was the only one ignorant enough to not realize that everyone BUT me wears jeans.

Short-shorts though... hehe, Gym class didn't have any specific dress code, as long as it was shorts and a shirt... so for a while there I had a shirt that went past the shorts and people thought I didn't have any shorts on. This is what happens when you can still wear clothes that's 5 years old. (It was a newer tshirt, with older shorts. I switched to longer shorts later because of those comments.) Though the same thing holds true today... I can still wear everything I wore in high school...

Phact0rri · Post by **Phact0rri** » Sun Aug 01, 2004 12:41 am

my witty handle "phact0rri" (pronounced factory), actually derived from an older handle I use to use "Auntie Phactorri" (pronounced "anti-factory"), and most people didn't get the comparison to the old punk band "Auntie Christ". As punk rawk conversations was where my heavy net usage derived (yeah, I wasn't always that loveable Synthpop geek). needless to say, most people thought I was a girl. combined with my longer hair and make up love, most people would always mistake me for a grrl.

most people know I'm a boi now, however.... I think.

JexKerome · Post by **JexKerome** » Sun Aug 01, 2004 4:58 am

Kisai wrote:Short-shorts though... hehe, Gym class didn't have any specific dress code, as long as it was shorts and a shirt... so for a while there I had a shirt that went past the shorts and people thought I didn't have any shorts on. This is what happens when you can still wear clothes that's 5 years old. (It was a newer tshirt, with older shorts. I switched to longer shorts later because of those comments.) Though the same thing holds true today... I can still wear everything I wore in high school...

Kisai, please stop putting those images into our minds nyo!

McDuffies · Post by **McDuffies** » Sun Aug 01, 2004 10:01 am

Waf wrote:As far as I know everything thinks I'm a guy. Infact I've never had anyone just take a stab at it and be wrong. Even when i use a girl avatars.

Well, I do learn somefin new every time I visit forums...

Oh, and I'm a manly man, noone confuses me.
Although if you want to, now is a chance, this is the most gender-neutral ava I've had.

CapitanG · Post by **CapitanG** » Sun Aug 01, 2004 10:07 am

Everyone knows that potato=manliness.

PO

TA

TO

LAGtheNoggin · Post by **LAGtheNoggin** » Sun Aug 01, 2004 12:10 pm

TOE

MAH

TOE

The English demands it of me.

Melody · Post by **Melody** » Sun Aug 01, 2004 12:36 pm

Kisai, if only you did not live so far away from me! Argablargh.

No one can confuse me in real life. Online, though, it can happen easierly. Sometimes I go to political sites to argue and some of those times people think I am female because I completely ignore insults or gigglingly parry them.

Comic Genesis Forums

Gender Confusion?

>>