update

LindaH · Post by **LindaH** » Wed Dec 21, 2005 9:59 pm

as you might remember i told you all my sweety would arrive this week, and that we never met in RL before...

i am now in even more love then before!!!!111eleven...

sweetest person i ever known, and funny, and sexy, and cute.. *goes on for hours*

so to speculate for the future: a collar on me isnt unlikely

Error of Logic · Post by **Error of Logic** » Thu Dec 22, 2005 12:20 am

A collar? That's ... alternative. ^^; Might he not start by putting a ring on your finger? Flowers in your hand? That sort of thing? Anyway, all the best together.

HentaiCat · Post by **HentaiCat** » Thu Dec 22, 2005 12:43 am

Error of Logic wrote:A collar? That's ... alternative. ^^; Might he not start by putting a ring on your finger? Flowers in your hand? That sort of thing? Anyway, all the best together.

Well I heard from someone that a collar is much more of a commitment then a ring...

Happypeepeehead · Post by **Happypeepeehead** » Thu Dec 22, 2005 1:00 am

LindaH, I sincerely wish you the happiest. However, the skeptic in me is just curious as to why you think you'd beg for a collar? Well, it's not like you did it yet.

Toawa · Post by **Toawa** » Thu Dec 22, 2005 8:17 am

happypeepeehead wrote:LindaH, I sincerely wish you the happiest. However, the skeptic in me is just curious as to why you think you'd beg for a collar? Well, it's not like you did it yet.

I suppose it would be no different than someone who knows/hopes/wishes/etc. for a (engagement) ring in the future, from meeting a person. This is just a different set of desires. It's good to know some people are more confident of their desires (presumably) than I am.

Kite-san · Post by **Kite-san** » Thu Dec 22, 2005 8:26 pm

squeeee! congratulations! all the best to you both, make sure though that when you get a collar that it's one that'll do heat transfer well, it makes me get fairly angsty/slightly depressive somewhat often that i can't wear mine for about half of the year because it gets too hot and i get heat rash (sweat ate through the caoting on the rivets within a few minths O.o stupid hyperactive sweat glands)

again, congratulations! ^_^

Prettydragoon · Post by **Prettydragoon** » Fri Dec 23, 2005 12:12 am

Congratulations, Linda!

kite-san wrote: make sure though that when you get a collar that it's one that'll do heat transfer well, it makes me get fairly angsty/slightly depressive somewhat often that i can't wear mine for about half of the year because it gets too hot and i get heat rash

I doubt she will have that exact problem

Major Maxillary · Post by **Major Maxillary** » Fri Dec 23, 2005 1:09 am

HentaiCat wrote:Well I heard from someone that a collar is much more of a commitment then a ring...

what's the difference?

Squidflakes · Post by **Squidflakes** » Fri Dec 23, 2005 3:57 am

Too small of a ring is annoying, too small of a collar can kill you.. or.. at least I think that's the difference

Myself · Post by **Myself** » Fri Dec 23, 2005 8:02 am

Hehe But i think the reason is a ring cant be hooked upoto a chain and have you draged around the streets like a dog.

Ghastly · Post by **Ghastly** » Fri Dec 23, 2005 12:46 pm

Well some types of sub collars can pretty much only be removed by a blacksmith once they've been put on.

That's a pretty big commitment right there.

Honor · Post by **Honor** » Sat Dec 24, 2005 12:10 am

I've always considered a collar to be a significantly more serious commitment than a wedding ring... Even if only because both parties to a wedding ring theoretically enter and remain equals. If you're not the sort to enter into that kind of relationship, I'm not sure if I can explain it in my current sick, drugged up state.

Of course, there are training collars, protection collars, probationary collars... But when it gets down to a formal, "permanant" commitment between a submissive and her Domme, I consider it to be a very, very serious thing.

Congratulations, Linda-luv

I wish for the very best for you. And if he hurts you in any ways you don't like, let him know the big, scary bitch-goddess butch domina dyke will put him in the hurt locker.

Myself · Post by **Myself** » Sat Dec 24, 2005 1:07 am

Id love to have a missus but my current form is not upto the task of seducing a lady since I have bigger tits than they do

But to be certain I aint wearing a collar at all and she better not think otherwise.

LindaH · Post by **LindaH** » Sat Dec 24, 2005 5:20 am

honor: dont worry. he is sooooo careful. he acidently touched by right rbeast this morning (and they are sensetive as hell today) and i winced and he immediately got concerned and spent several minutes appologising

Indigo Violent · Post by **Indigo Violent** » Sat Dec 24, 2005 4:15 pm

Honor wrote:Of course, there are training collars, protection collars, probationary collars... But when it gets down to a formal, "permanant" commitment between a submissive and her Domme, I consider it to be a very, very serious thing.

What's the significance of buying one from the pet store, and does that mean I have to keep him after we graduate from uni?

Happypeepeehead · Post by **Happypeepeehead** » Sat Dec 24, 2005 7:46 pm

*chuckle* Means you probably saved more than buying it at your local fetish store...

Squidflakes · Post by **Squidflakes** » Sun Dec 25, 2005 12:46 am

Indigo Violent wrote:
Honor wrote:Of course, there are training collars, protection collars, probationary collars... But when it gets down to a formal, "permanant" commitment between a submissive and her Domme, I consider it to be a very, very serious thing.
What's the significance of buying one from the pet store, and does that mean I have to keep him after we graduate from uni?

Naaa, it means that you can at any point send him to live out in the yard. Or maybe put him up for adoption at the shelter.

Kite-san · Post by **Kite-san** » Sun Dec 25, 2005 6:48 am

mm, good reasons, but there's other differences on petstore vs fetish store that're kinda important. the difference is that you'll give the petstore person a heart attack when they see who really is attatched to the name you had them put on the custom tag. the person at the fetish store won't have that problem.

also, if it's a heavy collar, heat transfer issues will crop up, since most normal pets that wear collars don't sweat at the neck, if something's eating through the metal, a fetish store will have a known reaosn why it'd happen. a petstore would suspect you of Jay-like hijinks a la flemco. erm, in terms of torture, i mean.

as far a scollar beign bigger comittment than a ring? inherently, no. because far, far too many people don't have anywhere near the approppriate respect for th elevel of comittment either is supposed to be when they're going into them, technically, they should be an equal level of committment, just a different form of relationship that's being comitted to. a collar coudl only really be viewed as a "bigger committment" in terms of the fact that normals don't have the wiggle-room to say "we're not counting collars outside of SSC." about some category of marriages.

Indigo Violent · Post by **Indigo Violent** » Sun Dec 25, 2005 5:10 pm

kite-san wrote:also, if it's a heavy collar, heat transfer issues will crop up,

It isn't and they won't. The collar we have is for playtime, not everyday.

LindaH · Post by **LindaH** » Mon Dec 26, 2005 12:51 am

Indigo Violent wrote:
kite-san wrote:also, if it's a heavy collar, heat transfer issues will crop up,
It isn't and they won't. The collar we have is for playtime, not everyday.

some of us use a collar 24/7 though