How do you view sex?

Queenhank · Post by **Queenhank** » Fri Apr 21, 2006 5:19 pm

So, it was recently brought to my attention that I may just have an abnormal view of sex. A little background:

I first encountered sex when I was 5. Myself and a neighborhood 6 year old would go off into the woods and play "sex". We found it felt good, so we kept it up for a few years, before we were caught, and forced to stop.

Since then, I've thought of sex in essentially the same way as I did then: a really fun game, which feels good. Sure, I know more about sex now, but it's still the same for me. So, I'm wondering if anybody else feels the same way, or if I am odd in my views.

Indigo Violent · Post by **Indigo Violent** » Fri Apr 21, 2006 5:25 pm

Fulfillment of a biological imperative, enjoyable in the same way eating, urinating, sleeping, etc, are.

Frombork! · Post by **Frombork!** » Fri Apr 21, 2006 5:29 pm

I usually view sex on a computer monitor, but sometimes I view it on a television or a laptop.

Honor · Post by **Honor** » Fri Apr 21, 2006 7:05 pm

There should be more options, just to be fun... Or at least one that says "all of the above, each in their proper place"

Depends on the situation, you know? It can be friendly exercise, a fun game, an expression of love, respect, admiration, sympathy, pity, need, longing, or biological imperative, mutually beneficial physical or psychological maintainance, or, of course, a vicious assault.

I got started on sex about the same time... But with a much, much more *cough* experienced partner. At this point, I've had sexual partners as much as 20 years younger than myself, and perhaps as much as fifty years older... Lovers, friends, relatives, acquaintances, and perfect (and imperfect) strangers.

I think Indigo's got it pretty much right... It's not a "good" (in the sense of "good vs evil") or bad thing, and, given consent, there're no right or wrong persons to have sex with. It's a nature thing.

Mycolicious · Post by **Mycolicious** » Fri Apr 21, 2006 10:27 pm

I put a LOT of value on sex.

Actually, I think it's kind of gross. And I also have severe intimacy issues. It seems kinda weird that I would frequent porn comics then, but.. I guess I'm trying to desensitize myself a bit so I don't run away when a boy tries to kiss me. And in a funny way!

Honor · Post by **Honor** » Fri Apr 21, 2006 11:32 pm

mycolicious wrote:...so I don't run away when a boy tries to kiss me...

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MaryxTyphus · Post by **MaryxTyphus** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 12:07 am

mycolicious wrote:
Actually, I think it's kind of gross. And I also have severe intimacy issues. It seems kinda weird that I would frequent porn comics then, but.. I guess I'm trying to desensitize myself a bit so I don't run away when a boy tries to kiss me. And in a funny way!

I used to be like that too, about a third of the time I'd want Intimacy and then the other three-fourths I'd find it gross and disgusting to even kiss another person let alone have sex.

At first I thought I was gay until I kissed a girl on the cheek, then I found the feeling even worse, it just wasn't me. Hence why I used the term 'Asexual' to describe that particular part. Until I started masturbating. If it wasn't for that I think I'd still be in the state of wondering what is so great about two peoples tongues meeting apex a maelstrom of passion.

For the most part Sex is hard to describe, it can be anything and everything you make it out to be and so much more

HentaiCat · Post by **HentaiCat** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 12:55 am

Oh wow, now there's a question I have really no idea how to answer, and odds are its just going to become a rant if I try... oh well, here I go

Sex feels great that's for sure and up until a little while ago the only thing I could think about is feeling it... and then when I finally do have it I find out that the best part is just being that close to someone you love... hell even spending time with them could be just as great... but not feel as good physically... Hmm, ok, my view of sex, Its how we reproduce and its feels really really good, but MUCH better when your with someone you care about

At first I thought I was gay until I kissed a girl on the cheek, then I found the feeling even worse, it just wasn't me.

The cheek? man.. this whole time I was imageing SO much more =\

Squidflakes · Post by **Squidflakes** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 8:45 am

I view sex like I view writing thank you notes to my Grandmother. Something I don't do nearly often enough.

Swordsman3003 · Post by **Swordsman3003** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 10:19 am

I view sex the same way I think about death. It's going to happen sooner or later.

Kingofthemorlocks · Post by **Kingofthemorlocks** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 10:33 am

I don't have huge amounts of experience in this regard...I mean, I've had a lot of sex over the last 14 months, but only with one person, ever. That's gonna color my perceptions.

Sex is, to me, a wonderful thing. It feels better than anything else. But in my eyes, it's just exercise if it's not done with someone you care about.

LindaH · Post by **LindaH** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 12:41 pm

to me it is something to share with the man/woman you deeply love. I wouldnt be interested in sex if i wasnt deeply in love with the partner.

that is one of the two reasons why i never had any form of intimate time with anyone before Matthew.

Toawa · Post by **Toawa** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 5:49 pm

Mary has 13/12ths time. I never knew this.

As far as sex, I abstain due to practical inexperience. Though I don't think the addition of a Matrix, collapsing of AT fields, development of psionic abilities, shapeshifting, etc. could hurt matters.

Of course, it does bring up a question similar to that posed by Discworld, when one dies. If we moved to, say, a computerized existence (mind upload), would sex matter nearly as much to us, or is it just a matter of hormones?

Awkwardschoolgirl · Post by **Awkwardschoolgirl** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 5:54 pm

My first time was with somebody that I was in love with, and we had a lot of sex. Well, it was about once a week, but he lives in a city just outside of where I live and I only got the money to visit him about once a week. But anyway, we had amazing sex, it felt good, and it was amazing because it was with him. Well, of course he ended up cheating on me for a while, but that's another story. The other 3 people I've had sex with were people I definately wasn't in love with, one was when I was under the influence, and two were because I was attempting to make myself feel good after my first had cheated and I couldn't make myself happy.

I'll say that sex feels good. But sex feels amazing when it's with someone you love. Also, I think that sex shouldn't be viewed with complete seriousness. Sex is fun, a lot of fun. It should be experimented with. There are definately serious aspects to sex, such as STD testing, protection, trust, boundries, etc. But the actual act should be fun. It should be used to express yourselves, to pleasure your partner/s and to become closer to that other person/s.

At the moment I'm saving myself for someone very special to me that I'll be with in short time, and I'm happy that I'm not having sex with random guys like I did before. I know that if I wait until I can actually be with him, I'll have better sex than I ever could with someone I barely know. Even if the actual sex sucks, or even if we don't end up having sex, I wouldn't complain because I'll be close to him, and that's really all that matters to me right now.

Toawa · Post by **Toawa** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 5:56 pm

Let me clarify my above post:

I abstain to vote in the above poll due to lack of practical experience.

Goddessmisca · Post by **Goddessmisca** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 6:06 pm

I will only have sex with someone I love.

But that is not to say I will only have sex with someone I am "in love with". although I agree that that makes the BEST sex.

I love my friends, so yea I'd sleep with some of them, assuming there was the chemical connection. Heck I'd even say there are a couple of people on this forum I'd say I love--it might not be as deep as my friends I see every day, but over the years I've started to develop a level of caring for the people that are presented to me that I love them.

I love very easily, it has always been a blessing and a curse, but now it will never leave me without a partner.

I've once slept with someone I didn't love...in fact I just met him that day. And I did it, because I was VERY drunk, and didn't want to sleep with a good friend, who I did love. Sleeping with my friend would have caused a mess cause he was another friends ex, there had always been tension between us, and we were both piss ass drunk. So my drunken reasoning said "sleep with his friend who wants to get with you, you won't sleep with two people in one night" It's the only encounter I regret.

But other then that I’d rather sleep with people who I care about, because it is a very intimate act. It’s fun, but I’d never call it a game, it can hurt too many people. If I am going to ask someone to put themselves into a position where they are as vulnerable as in sex, I should really care about them, and for my own conscience that care should be of a level I call love.

Aeridus · Post by **Aeridus** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 9:43 pm

I think sex is best done with someone you care about, but that doesn't mean the sex itself has to be serious.

Goofy sex with a loved one is just as good. :B

Tha_Pig · Post by **Tha_Pig** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 11:02 pm

You forgot to put the "All of the above" option!

Sex can be just a fun game. Other times it can be a meaningful experience. It all depends on the other person and the context.

Right now, at this point of my life, SEX is something I do only with my wife. We love each other in our own way and we have been together for 6 years, so there are few surprises in our sexual life. Still fun though...

But some time ago (when I was younger and more adventurous) SEX was a more casual and some times dengerous experience.

Tha_Pig · Post by **Tha_Pig** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 11:04 pm

Indigo Violent wrote:Fulfillment of a biological imperative, enjoyable in the same way eating, urinating, sleeping, etc, are.

You are a virgin, aren't you?

Indigo Violent · Post by **Indigo Violent** » Sat Apr 22, 2006 11:32 pm

Tha_Pig wrote:
Indigo Violent wrote:Fulfillment of a biological imperative, enjoyable in the same way eating, urinating, sleeping, etc, are.
You are a virgin, aren't you?

If you didn't have your first orgasm until you started sleeping with other people, then I feel kind of bad for you. (Oh, and to clarify - no, I am not.)